Our church just had a ladies retreat weekend. I wasn't able to go, however, two of the ladies in my life group reported on the retreat. Sounds like I missed a good one.
The theme was about being
vulnerable. When we're vulnerable and open to others, we also learn
we're not alone. We find fellowship, support and encouragement with one
Now, this is something that I understand, but I still
struggle with. I'm not always open when I have needs. I'm not one to
always request prayers. I'll share the joys, but don't always share the
stuff with which I'm really struggling.
This isn't because my
friends won't be there for me. I know they would be in a heartbeat!
The few times I have opened up when I've needed prayer and support,
they've been there.
I think my issue is that I don't want to come
across whiny or negative. Do you have people in your life that when you
see their name come up on your caller ID, you almost dread talking with
them. It's going to be something negative -- because that's just their
personality. Then sometimes you end up ducking their calls.
don't want to be that person, the one who is avoided. Generally, I'm a
very positive person and try to look at the bright side of life (to use a
cliche). But I'm also sensitive. It's hard to be open and vulnerable,
because you don't want to get stomped on either.
A couple of
weeks ago, a woman at the gym, who truly was trying to be encouraging,
said something about me needing cuter workout clothes. What was
something that was meant to encourage me in my workouts, only hit a
sensitive spot of my weight. Now I've lost 75 pounds, and I feel good.
And I definitely don't go to the gym to impress anybody else. But for
some reason, her words just hit a mark. Stupid, huh?
like that shouldn't prevent from opening up to my friends, to those who
care about me. When we open up, we learn that we're not alone in this
life and that others are going through the same things we are. We
really can share together and learn from our various experiences.
thing to remember though, is that why you're asking for prayer from
someone and sharing your story, take the time to listen to them and let
them share with you. Let's be there for each other.
Being vulnerable isn't one-sided.
What are your thoughts on being vulnerable? Opening up or trusting another? Is it easy or difficult for you to do?